EMOTIONAL IQ

by Rebecca Kimbel

We learn early the importance of intellectual IQ. We often learn late the importance of emotional IQ, know as EQ. EQ is an awareness of emotional circumstances in individuals, groups and environments. It is recognition and understanding of emotional needs, responses and potential. EQ is commonly called “people skills”.People skills are so important some researches believe they can change our lives as much as 80%, because our lives in their most meaningful aspect, deal with people. Recognizing and understanding emotional needs of others is the first step to real communication and success in any human endeavor. A person, who is insensitive to the feelings and needs of others, unwittingly alienates people. Instead of dawning others, they repel them.

EQ can be an acquired skill. Emotions are barometers for human behavior in individuals and groups. Emotional instinct is a basic survival skill, which reaches into every aspect of human relationships. EQ is an applied skill in lasting relationships, business successes and the enriching enhancement that produces a joyful life. The first step toward achieving a high EQ, is realizing people are more alike than they are different. Everyone aspires to be accepted, have a sense of belonging and be treated with respect. These are basic needs we all share. EQ recognizes artificial emotion. A person without conviction betrays himself. His solid gold plastic personalities display an artificial “glitz” that won’t pass for quality to the listener with a high EQ,

As kids, most of us were taught to hide out feelings, deny our emotions and pretend we did not feel what we felt. For many of us denial of our feelings became a habit. Denying ones emotions, feelings and sensitivity is like turning off your GPS system in a strange city. By the same token, one can’t listen to the GPS system and drive blind folded. EQ and IQ are counter parts to be balanced with respectful adaptation to unique circumstances and needs. When we get honest with our selves about our own emotional responses, we have an easer time understanding and responding to emotional responses of others. Emotional identification elevates connection. Without connection a relationship is superficial. Caring and being cared about are basic human needs. Emotional and psychological health is greatly affected by the quality of human caring in our lives.

Those who care, care how you feel, what you need, want and aspire to. Those with a high EQ use that understanding and knowledge to enhance their own lives as well as the lives of others. Their success ratio is much higher than average, not because they have a high IQ, but because they have developed a high EQ and learned the art of living.

 

Rebecca Kimbel ~ Motivational Speaker

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